> [!tldr] to *really* change someone's core beliefs requires *love and community* much more than facts People who believe things differently than you aren't going to be won over through "sheer logic". It takes **love**. Humans are a social species. We [[Go with the Herd Incentive|believe what our tribes believe]]. We will become embattled on one side of a topic and "other" people who aren't on our side. > You can't simply throw facts about climate change to a climate change denier. **Only once people see you can accept them for who they are, and that their acceptance into the community isn't dependent on them holding steadfast to their existing beliefs, are they willing to seriously question them.** This reminds me of [[Negotiation is Tactical Empathy|tactical empathy]]. # Examples from the book - LGBTQIA+ door-to-door canvasers let people tell them their stories - [[Understand First, then Be Understood|sought to understand first]], then were able to lead some horses to water so they could realize their own [[Cognitive Dissonance]] and **change their own mind** - The Westboro Baptist Church was a community of people built on an idea that they were "saving people" by doing all the terrible things they do. The story of the Jewish man who listened to the Westboro member and became friends with them. Because of this friendship and acceptance the Westboro member realized "wait, we might be wrong here". - A recurring theme of the chapter was: "people didn't leave the church because their beliefs changed, their beliefs changed because they left the church" **** # More ## Source - [[How Minds Change]]