**Contempt. Stonewalling. Criticism. Defensiveness.** The [[Gottman Marriage Study]] assigned one of 20 different emotional states to each member of a couple every second during a 15 minute video recording of a conversation between the couple. The study found they were able to predict divorce within 15 years with a 95% accuracy after recording for an hour. Gottman applied the [[Pareto Principle]] to his results and found that just 4 of the 20 different states were enough to accurately predict divorce: 1. [[Contempt]] - equally shared by both sexes 2. [[Stonewalling]] - more often done by men 3. [[Critcism]] - more often done by women 4. [[Defensiveness]] - I WASN'T BEING DEFENSIVE **** # More ## Source - [[Blink]] ## Related - [[Gottman Marriage Study]] - [[4 Horsemen of Death]]