A few studies have found that using your own name in place of "I" on your head when thinking about doing something can help "remove" your current feelings/desires out from the equation and, perhaps, lead you to make better (or less indulgent) decisions. > [!tldr] > "*I won't eat that donut*" is less likely to help your resolve than "**Aaron won't eat that donut**". This was extended even further when a group of children were told to think of their favorite hero doing (or not doing) the thing. This would be the equivalent of saying to yourself: - The person you want to be wouldn't eat that donut. In the book [[Do Hard Things]] this was posited as adding some distance between your current state and the message in your head. There's something about the use of **more distant language** when referring to yourself in your head. - I'm going to an interview. I'm going to say something wrong, I always do. - Aaron is going to an interview. Aaron will say something wrong, but he's good at catching himself and making it work. ## 2nd Person Works, Too **** # More ## Source - [[Do Hard Things]] - [[sources/Chatter]] ## Related - [[Three Selves]]